Can We Reconcile?


Spouses separate for many reasons, and some may wish to save their marriages. In fact, some studies show that in as many as
60 percent of completed divorces, at least one spouse (and sometimes both) felt they should have tried harder to make their marriage work.

We believe that parents, even separated parents well down the road of a divorce, deserve to know that they can choose to put their energies into an option like a constructive separation that allows them to keep open the final decision about whether to divorce or reconcile.

Parents interested in the option we call a No-Divorce-Today Separation are encouraged to look over all the links on NoDivorceToday.org (they’re short and self-explanatory) and be in touch if they wish to discuss this different path. Building on the excellent work of Lee Raffel in her book Controlled Separation, we have developed an online opportunity for spouses with marital challenges to decide how they will make their separation as good as possible and preserve their chance either to reconcile happily or to divorce amicably.

We offer free mediation in these cases.

Today may not be for making a final decision. It may be for calmly and wisely laying the groundwork so that a future decision can be as good and happy as possible, whether that future decision is to reconcile happily or to divorce amicably.